Raising a teen hasn’t been easy for any parent especially
when it comes to the troubled ones. It’s time for you to start strict
interventions if your teen has behavioural issues because it is necessary for
them to grow into polite and well-behaved adults. It is vital for your teen to
move on the right path since adolescence is a phase where most teens are
vulnerable to multiple influences in their life.
Before throwing tantrums and scolding at your teen, it is
important to find out the foundation of the problem they have been dealing
with. Usually, misbehaviour amongst teenagers is a setback for adolescents who
have been dealing with major stress and punishing them for their deed is not
such a good idea. There has been a rash generalisation on how we perceive the
behavioural notions. We often think that our behaviour is voluntary and we have
a grip over how to act or react which may comply with grown adults. However,
this doesn’t completely resonate with the teenagers who have been facing
control issues and react indifferently.
Rather than paying more attention to teaching our children
self-control, isn’t it more apparent that parents should dig more into teaching
them self-regulation? Self-regulation is a way one needs to perceive, tackle
and manage the problems and stresses to succeed in life. Your child seriously
needs to break the shell of stress and come out living life in a more
nurtured way.
Here are a few key steps to help your teen create the aura of
self-regulation around them.
1.
Observe and
understand when your child is stressed
As a parent, it needs a big gut to learn and understand your child’s changing behaviour. It is therefore crucial for a parent to know and accept your child the way he/she is rather than blaming them for misbehaviour is the first step you need to take. Blaming them for such things would simply draw arguments between both of you. The second step is to reframe your child’s behaviour as a reaction to their bothering problems and stresses that they transform into troubling behaviour.
2.
Find out
the root of the stress
As you have already started to explore and implement
good morals, behaviour and values into your child, you necessarily need to dig
out the root of the stress that has been bringing out the pessimistic side of
your child. This stress might come from an excess of schoolwork, assignments and
relationship issues. Considering all the revolving aspects of stress boosters
for your teen would educate you about the level of stress and pressure they
hold before blaming them.
3.
Try cutting
off the stress roots
A parent plays a major role in showing the direction to
their child and thereby they can simply try to cut off or reduce the stressors
surrounding their child during the teenage. It is evident that chopping off the
source of the stress would ultimately change their behaviour drastically.
4.
Help them
find tranquillity
Usually, everybody needs a strategy to reduce tension and restore energy. Similarly, your teen need needs constant mindfulness as a way to simmer calmness in their life and mind.
This
process of self-regulation may not occur in your child instantaneously but it
surely will guarantee a change of behaviour in your child.
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