Protection is something every
parent serves to keep their children safe and steady in life. Every child grows
up with values and a moral inculcated into them through parents and this is
what hone their ability to survive in today’s world whereas parents who protect
their children in the long term, rescuing them being their concierge for lifetime
can take a toll on kids in the long term.
This majorly creates a
hindrance for the child to quickly lose the competitive advantage when they
grow up into adults. Another term used for such parenting is ‘Helicopter
Parenting’ which is indeed seen to grow stronger nowadays where the cult of
kiddie danger has completely absorbed the parents.
However, quantifying parental
overprotectiveness can be a tad bit tricky since most of the parents
understandably teach their children about the threats and danger which is their
prime responsibility being a guardian, while many of them protect their kids
from legitimate threats concerning more about physical and psychological harm.
Over-protectiveness can lead to stress and anxiety, fear from dealing with the
problem alone etc.
Following are the reasons why over parenting is menacing for children’s psychological health:-
Anxiety disorders
If a child is more centred on social interaction and is eccentric about family and
parents then this simultaneously signifies that he has been dealing with over-parenting stress. While parents shield and restrict their children from
stressful events in the intention of protecting kids, parents inadvertently
encourage timidity in their children by preventing them from approaching fears
and problems in life. This is one of the symptoms of eliminating competitions
ahead of them.
Health Problems
Helicopter parents induce health problems in their children when they grow into adults unknowingly because over protectiveness usually pulls children away from understanding basic self-aiding methods. Intrusive parents worry excessively about kid’s health and provide constant reminders that the child becomes totally reliable and dependant on the parent to take medicines by themselves.
Children feel entitled
Parents who are overprotective dote on their kid make their children very self-centred that the child thinks nobody is extra special than them and this feeling of extra self-esteem grows with age and reaches at apex point when they turn 18. Helicopter kids grow up entitled that is directly linked with chronic disappointment and ongoing suffering in life. This corresponds them to not being able to accept rejection due to increased stubbornness inside them.
Sense of dependence on parents
If you end up making even minor decisions for your children then it is very evident that your child will drool back to you in taking smallest of decisions. Parenting is all about guiding your children and showing them the right direction whereas helicopter parenting is assisting children every time while they should be learning to lead the life themselves when it comes to understanding consequences, making a choice and deciding for themselves. Children shouldn’t be growing up with conditioned thinking that parents are the only ones who can take care of them since their ability to assess adult decisions by themselves gets hampered.
Higher chances of being bullied
If you hold hands of your child whole their life carrying them along the road of bullying and abuse then this is something you need to get a hold on. Children during their childhood and growing years should be taught how to deal with situations of bullying and abuse outside. It is very important for both parent and children to interpret things like they cannot hang out together every time the crisis of bullying and abuse takes a toll on the child’s way. It is the child who has to smartly take decisions and tackle the approaching problem. Sense of passivity and dependency often breaks the child’s self- confidence that they become too reliant on parents and end up being the victim.
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