Have you constantly been yelling and shouting at your
children without any reason? This could perhaps be the reason of the inner
aggression that triggers anger out of nothing in you. Criticising every small
pressure and no matter how hard you try, you fall back repeating the same
habit.
Nobody looks forward to being an angry parent while your own
children expect you to react in a different way. It not just drives a vicious
vibe across the walls of the home but it also explodes others who are living
with you out of extreme exasperation. Losing your calm and adapting constant
scathing turmoill at every small thing may subject your children to seamless
strictness and frustration.
Mentioned below are a few calming methods for the aggressive
one to keep their composure while dealing with a situation and freaking people
out.
1. Know what triggers your anger
It is very important for the short-tempered parent to know what their triggers are and how they should keep calm at peak points.
2. Focus on the word STOP
This word is as powerful and effective as a red
traffic signal for vehicles on the road. You know it when you’re triggered and
you overdrive your emotions, spinning it all inside of you and are all set to
explode. This is the moment when you seriously need to sit down and focus on
the word STOP. This word will definitely urge you to interrupt the angry cycle
and stay calm in similar situations.
3. Turn away
Keep yourself distant from your children if you
frequently hit, slap or spank your kids describing the word anger and
frustration. Consequently, if you hit your children out of aggression, you’ll
end up creating a distance between yourself and kids with the word FEAR. It is
better to erase this frightening word from inside of your children by turning
away when you’re compelled to hitting them. This will not just save your
children from your aggression, but it will also save them from the bruises.
4. Analyse the situation
We are asking you to analyse the situation before
reacting since it is very important for you to calm down, take seconds to
inhale and exhale with closed eyes and then get a precise handle to the
situation. Think of the moments where things seriously go off hand and you have
Permission to start over and react wisely.
5. Praise yourself
Depletion of self-love is the major factor of the
anger that drives extreme anger within you. Take some time out of your daily
routine and sit back and relax. Start adoring and admiring yourself for who you
are and start praising yourself for being strong and wise enough to tackle each
problem calmly. This way your brain will learn things better and would urge you
to react differently in changing situations.